There's different states/ levels of masculine-safety. All are needed & necessary. I wanted to share this because many of us may struggle to understand the benefits of each type. We might need one and reject it, while it's good for us, and our current state.
1. Command/ control/ directness, limitation, unemotionality, goal oriented.
If you're wondering how is this considered safety?
Consider Survival instincts...
Think when your child is rushing to do something dangerous, and you have to run and swoop them up, or give direct command for them to stop 
️ there's a sense of urgency to act. The goal is to shield from harm at all cost. Limiting access, and creating a boundary to anyone who still doesn't have the sense to understand the consequences & damage.
️ there's a sense of urgency to act. The goal is to shield from harm at all cost. Limiting access, and creating a boundary to anyone who still doesn't have the sense to understand the consequences & damage.Or
If someone is in a burning building 
and must be rescued. The last thing that's needed is seeing an empathetic listener come to help you. It's just not going to make anyone feel safe in that situation to relax. When too many emotions could bring about more panic and distrust the rescuers competence.
and must be rescued. The last thing that's needed is seeing an empathetic listener come to help you. It's just not going to make anyone feel safe in that situation to relax. When too many emotions could bring about more panic and distrust the rescuers competence.A certain level of unemotionality, strength, with the ability to get the job done to protect the vulnerable.
Directness as masculine-safety meaning things are made certain and decisive. Ever take a sigh of relief when plans are made for you? No mental gymnastics because someone else is making the decisions for your best interest.
'I'll take care of it!'
2. Second type of masculine-safety requires partnership.
Holding and releasing. It's a witnessing, sensing, agreements and trust.
The best example is raising a teenager. Being a masculine-safety figure in teen years is a very different approach because there must be a sense of safe partnership, with catch and release.
'I'll give you these privileges if you can meet these agreements...'
(some people try to skip this stage because they believe they're above it).
Give and Take developing trust and forming independence gradually.
3. Third level of Masculine-safety is a leader. A leader initiates.
They can't see where the path ends, yet walks first. They are anchored, have emotional depth and works with WHAT IS in grounded open-hearted presence.
This one is necessary because we need people who are willing to be rooted in purpose, take responsibility and risk for a greater cause- The real greater-good. (It can be far less celebrated and requires more integration and transcending ego).
Purpose is the certainty.
...creatives & artists are also considered leaders because they're willing to accept the unknown 
